completely surprised; they said they had
no clue. My mom was crying a lot. They
had a lot of questions. Was I being safe?
Did I need therapy to deal with the stress
[of keeping a secret]? When I left them, I
was feeling good. It was hard for them to
hear that I told some of their friends first.
But the crazy thing was, a week after I
came out, I told them I was having a friend
visit and asked if I could bring him to their
house. And they said sure, no problem.
And we started dating not long after that.
And I dated him for two years—he was
invited right into the family.
During your time in D.C., did you have
any guidance from anyone?
I became friends with an older man. And
then I decided I needed to find someone
my own age, and I found a student at [a
local college]. After a time, I told the student friend I was no longer interested.
I was in the middle of my season, still
deep in the closet, and he stalked and
harassed me. He told me he was going
to out me to journalists. It was one of
the hardest times of my life. So I went
to my older friend, who told me I had
legal recourse. He helped me prepare
legal papers, which I sent to the kid and
his parents. I was so angry. I felt completely at the mercy of someone else. The
idea of being outed like that…getting the
decision taken away from you is pretty
How did you decide on making a
It was Pride month in Minneapolis and
I had participated in Playing for Pride
[a fundraiser for LGBTQ causes], which
was started by Austin da Luz, a North
Carolina FC [Football Club] player who I
knew at Wake Forest. A journalist asked
me why I was participating, and I just
said that I was supporting my friend. At
this point, my Minnesota teammates
knew—I had done a full season with my
boyfriend around the team. At the same
time, I knew that there was no male athlete out in the pro leagues. I didn’t want
to be that guy, but I also realized, ‘Hey, I
can be that guy!’
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