to use the term we have been using:
homecoming royalty…We’re not put-
ting a definition on and putting people
Patty Spencer had no idea that Aid-
en’s old school had made history until
I asked this summer to interview her
about B-CC’s gender-neutral homecom-
After Aiden killed himself, Spencer’s
22-year marriage to his other mother, an
American University professor, ended.
The couple’s first child, born with serious
congenital defects, lived just a few hours.
“When Aiden died, he took the rest of
us with him,” says Spencer, who returned
alone to her native Canada in 2011. She
wrote a book on surviving suicide.
She has nothing but praise for the
B-CC students who wrestled with how
to make homecoming more inclusive.
She isn’t just grateful to the kids who
pushed for the change; she’s grateful to
those who dissented because they had to
think about the issue. She’s grateful that
Pinkus survived to wear a homecoming
crown. “It takes a lot of courage to be
who you are in this world,” Spencer says.
“Good for him. Good for the kids who
did it. Good for the kids who are thinking
about it and not being outright hateful.
“It sounds like a great success. Just the
fact that not everybody is comfortable
about it doesn’t mean it’s not a success.
People who have been thinking about it
can no longer believe that these issues
are not part of their world. Everybody
had to do a lot of thinking.
“We don’t all have to be the same,” she
adds. “We just have to be kind. We can’t
forget to be kind.”
After talking to Spencer, I hung up
the phone thinking about homecom-
ing, the storied event around a football
game, and the concept of coming home. I
kept thinking about a favorite quote that
Spencer adds to the end of every email
“We are all walking each other home. ” n
April Witt is a former Washington Post
writer who lives in Bethesda.
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