Julie, and proposed at a family barbecue,
handing her a hot dog garnished with a
marquise-cut diamond ring that had
cost every penny of his savings.
For the Bulitts, the biggest marital
test came in parenting. When the couple
married in 1986 (after David passed the
bar, his wife makes sure to note), Julie
quickly became pregnant with their
first daughter. A period of infertility followed, and the couple decided to adopt
two biological sisters. ;en, out of the
blue, Julie learned she was pregnant with
their youngest daughter.
Raising children wasn’t easy for the
couple. ;eir second-youngest daughter
dealt with significant behavioral issues,
and David and Julie didn’t always agree
on how to confront them. Julie attacked
the challenge with a therapist’s mindset
and focused on treatment, while David
tended to emphasize their daughter’s
ability to control her actions.
The different approaches and the
turmoil caused by their daughter’s outbursts put the Bulitts through years of
stress, but they grew during the process,
they say. If one had a problem with how
the other was parenting, they would
wait until they were alone to hash it out.
Julie started sending David away on trips
with friends, and he did the same for her.
“;ere was a lot of, ‘OK, you’ve got to do
[the parenting] because I’ve gotta go hit
some golf balls or I’ve gotta take the dog
on a walk,’ ” David says.
“When one person was good, the
other person wasn’t good, and we would
build each other up,” Julie says.
;roughout the years, even the tough
ones, David and Julie made sure to stay
connected. They’d let their teenage
daughter, the oldest, go out with friends
one weekend night but have her baby-sit
on the other so they could enjoy a date.
;eir parenting years have passed—
they now have three grandchildren—and
they still go on those weekly dates. “We
enjoy each other’s company if we go
out for co;ee or we go for a walk in the
woods with the dogs. We have fun. We
talk,” Julie says. “So we’re lucky. We’re
really, really lucky. But we’ve put work
in to make it work this way.” ■